Sitting on my sofa drinking a cup of tea and thinking to myself *I never make a tea as good as my Mama* (Thats what I call my Grandma btw).
I have been truly blessed to be surrounded by such inspiring women throughout my life (and not just because they make great tea). Having been raised by my single Mum I know a strong woman when I see one. She is beautiful, passionate, kind-hearted and professional. She has taught me all about the important values in life and worked extra hard to give me everything I have ever needed. My Mama too is like my soul mate. She has always been there with open and loving arms and her sense of humour gives me life like no other. The three of us have the best support system and I can never be more grateful to them both.
Below are the bae’s themselves.
These are the lessons they have taught me which I try to carry with me everyday:
1.Listen to your gut feeling.
More often than not what you are feeling is right. Even if it’s a risk, sometimes the risk is worth taking. My favourite saying is ‘What have you got to lose?’, so you may as well just go for it. On the other hand, if you don’t feel a certain decision is right in your gut then don’t go for it. It’s absolutely okay to say no and if the people around you don’t support you then they are not worth sticking around for.
2. Choose happiness.
The most important thing they have taught me is to choose what makes me happy. So, whether this be a big or a small decision, if you are pursuing something that makes you happy and doing it with drive and ambition you will make a success of it.
3. The best things are only possible if you step outside your comfort zone.
As one inspiring lady once told me “If you don’t change you won’t grow”. Sometimes you just have to take a deep breath and go for it. This could be as drastic as conquering a trek, starting a new job or putting yourself in a difficult social situation. You never know what these mini milestones might do for you.
4. Always make time for your family.
You may not always see your family because lets be honest you may not all live near each other and everyone is busy living their own lives. But when you need them the most they will be there for you. So pick up the phone see how they are, tell them you love them and maybe organise that tea party for the whole family because they are the ones that know your real journey.
5. Friendships are so important.
This doesn’t have to be many, just those few special ones. I have learnt from my Mum and my Mama the power of friendships and how they are so important to have in your life, how they can lift you with one word and make you laugh when you feel like crying.
6. If you want something, work for it.
I have been surrounded by a very hard working family and seeing my Mum work so hard to support me my whole life has given me that drive to work. Particularly since studying fashion I have fallen victim to a bit of retail therapy and I must say, being able to finally buy that pair of shoes you have had your eye on the whole month is absolutely worth it when you have worked so hard for it. I think it just makes you appreciate it that little bit more.
7. Always say yes to new adventures.
I remember when I was in school our head of year used to go on and on about ‘opportunities’ all the time. We used to count how many times she would say to “take every opportunity” each assembly. But genuinely she was right. Lots of these things you only get the chance to do once. You should just say yes to everything and work out the rest later.
8. Forgive and forget.
The biggest lesson I have learnt in life is that not everything goes quite how you may expect it. But that’s okay. Life is short so you have to make the most of it. I’ve learnt the importance of being a ‘glass half full’ not ‘half empty’ person and seeing that every negative has a positive spin. Don’t hold grudges and dwell on the past, just move forward with those that love you the most.
9. A cup of tea and a hug fixes everything.
Honestly a hug is actually scientifically proven to release a hormone called oxytocin which reduces stress and prevents nausea and headaches. Hugs are proven to strengthen the immune system and relieve anxiety. So if you’re down, hug hug hug. As for tea, it’s always there for you. I come from a very ‘tea orientated family’. Its most likely to be included in the second sentence of any engagement we have with each other. But I’m not complaining as long as you have some biscuits to go with it.
I hope you enjoyed reading this post and a shout out to the inspirational women in your life, whether that be a Mum, Grandmother, Sister, Aunt or friend.
Chatty Hanny x